So. much. happened. to our little family in the last few years. For starters, Dan's accident. Anyone who is close to us knows how much my poor husband was put through. When I say I don't know how many surgeries - I'm not being dramatic. I really do not know! I lost count. Maybe 14? 15? His strength was and is palatable. War hero status in my eyes.
And then there's my situation with my brain shunt. That little shunt that I had for 39 years + some change and all of the sudden by the pool with Jen my neck starts to hurt last July. A few days later after nothing seems to help, I go into the doctor and literally on the way in, I realize that the pain is right in the same place as the catheter in my neck from the shunt that I was given as a baby. If I had failed to mention that detail, she would have prescribed muscle relaxers and who knows what would have happened next. Thank Jesus I remembered to tell her- which alerted her to an ultrasound that showed the catheter was compromised. Next was 3 days in major pain at Baylor Mckinney only to be released with some new information that fluid was in my neck - meaning the shunt was still operative. Shocker.... But no doctor referral. Was told to "go find a shunt specialist" -- Fast forward 2 days after not being able to sit up, walk, eat, really anything, I made the hardest decision of my life to leave for UTSouthwestern - knowing that I wouldn't be back anytime soon. Having no clue what would happen next. I get to the ER with my mom and sister (dan stayed with the girls) and God was was with me. Because the surgeon on call is now my forever surgeon. Dr. Toral Patel has saved me in more ways than one. She is not only brilliant -but also caring and generous. She "gets" me and looks out for me. I'm tearing up as a write this. Look for the blessings guys. They are there if you look for them. She was and is a big one for me.
So you may ask why I'm back in the hospital. It all comes back to the fact that my old shunt was really really old. Literally no one has a VP shunt for that long. No. one. And the catheter that goes from my brain down to through my abdomen is in small pieces that will disintegrate when they are touched. Some of those pieces still had bacteria on them (despite 11 days of IV antibiotics) and over the next six months that bacteria crept onto my new equipment. After lots and lots of antibiotics, we made the heart crushing decision to bring me back in for a second time. In order to fight the bacteria, we had to pull out the new shunt, as well as attempt to retrieve more of the old shunt. That surgery went well. She was able to get a 6 cm piece from in between my breasts - which had been a "hot zone" for the infection.
On the 23rd my new shunt will be put in and I will begin more recovery. I'm so looking forward to being home but not really looking forward to the recovery time. It was hard last time. Maybe better (hopefully better) this time - but the brain does what it wants. So we shall see.
Lots of medical crap. Lots of tears. Lots of recovery and also lots of love. "In sickness and health" is something I think we all say and assume (and hope) won't be a thing until we're old and gray. And when you find yourself helping your partner through a horrific situation way before then, you realize what those words really mean.
Maren Morris wrote a song called "Bones" and it speaks to me like no other.
these lyrics get me.
We took a hard left, but we're alrightYeah, life sure can try to put love through it, but
We built this right, so nothing's ever gonna move it
Yeah, the paint could peel, the glass could shatter
Let it rain 'cause you and I remain the same
When there ain't a crack in the foundation
Baby, I know any storm we're facing
Will blow right over while we stay put
The house don't fall when the bones are good
Can't even mess it up, although we both try
No, it don't always go the way we planned it
But the wolves came and went and we're still standing
When the bones are good, the rest don't matter
And now we have more challenges ahead. THE CORONA. WTF y'all? And It's like I'm in a fishbowl watching this happen around me because the lock-down/social distancing happened right as I entered the hospital. I was fortunate to have my mom with me for the first few days -but made her go home last Saturday and have only seen Dan once since. And my babies can't be up here. Talk about big girl panties. Been wearing them for almost 2 weeks now.
Gonna pray for all of us that we can get through this time and somehow come through on the other side stronger better people. That at the end of day we remember what matters and what is just "fluff." Know the real meaning of #firstworldproblems and focus each other. I'm still optimistic that this will happen but like everyone else - still panicking on the inside about the unknowns. Gonna have to up my prayer game for sure.
Until next time!
-Jessica
PS. if you got to the bottom of this post and your name isn't Marcia Carrithers (my mom), I applaud you. I realize I'm a rambling socially starved extrovert right now with a tube sticking out of my head waiting for surgery. Just needing outlets right now, lol.
Gonna pray for all of us that we can get through this time and somehow come through on the other side stronger better people. That at the end of day we remember what matters and what is just "fluff." Know the real meaning of #firstworldproblems and focus each other. I'm still optimistic that this will happen but like everyone else - still panicking on the inside about the unknowns. Gonna have to up my prayer game for sure.
Until next time!
-Jessica
PS. if you got to the bottom of this post and your name isn't Marcia Carrithers (my mom), I applaud you. I realize I'm a rambling socially starved extrovert right now with a tube sticking out of my head waiting for surgery. Just needing outlets right now, lol.